Don’t Worry – It’s Useless

14 Jul

This article is part of the series “31 blogs in 31 days” during July 2017 on howtofab.com.

Yesterday’s article was about Regrets and why they are often misplaced and unfair. Today I am having a similar go at Worrying, another questionable human pastime.

Many of us have mastered the art of lying awake at night, occupying our mind with all the different ways in which something may go wrong.

Worrying is in fact useless – it serves no constructive purpose. Because:

“If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?

If you can’t solve it, then what is the use of worrying?” 

Shantideva, Indian Buddhist sage, 8th century

I know this sounds simplistic and perhaps even arrogant. But if you give this thought a chance, can you see a purpose behind worrying?

Even worse actually, worrying keeps you from feeling and dealing with the underlying fear. The difference may seem subtle, but worrying relates to a potential threat in the future, something that may also very well not happen at all. Fear is a much more concrete signal that alerts you about real or perceived danger.

Worrying usually means going round and round the same circles of thoughts and feelings, without any progress. It’s like being suspended in mid-air. You start to focus on your problems, you feel helpless, your thinking gets clouded by seeing potential threats everywhere. And you may start taking bad decisions out of being worried. Because although you may think that spending time being worried means you are dealing with a problem in a rational way, worrying is far from being rational.

It’s perfectly rational being alert of potential threats around the corner. It’s perfectly rational to prepare for those threats or dangers. Actively doing something to prepare or mentally going through possible scenarios, weighing up their likelihood and then coming up with plans about what can be done in each of those situations – that’s a much more constructive approach. Yes, bad things may happen in the future, but you are not making them any less likely to happen by worrying about them here and now.

If you catch yourself in such a mental and emotional spiral, really ask yourself the question:

“Is this exercise serving any constructive purpose?”

It’s not  – Don’t Worry, Be Happy.

It’s rather – Don’t Worry, Start Thinking Constructively About Ways In Which Potential Threats May Be Averted  🙂

Picture: Alexas_Fotos via Pixabay CC0

 

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2 Responses to “Don’t Worry – It’s Useless”

  1. riener@dffg-consultants.de July 18, 2017 at 8:37 am #

    Was ist:

    Shantideva, indischer buddhistischer Salbei, 8. Jh (Google Übersetzer)

    Originaltext: Shantideva, Indian Buddhist sage, 8th century

    Gruß Vater

    Helmut Riener Geschäftsführer d.ff.G Helmut Riener Management und Consulting GmbH Friedrichstr. 3, 74906 Bad Rappenau Amtsgericht Stuttgart HRB 723114 Tel.: 01520/9882796 Riener@dffg-consultants.de

    Von: How to Fab <comment-reply@wordpress.com> Antworten an: How to Fab <comment+rd887njoykimcutv28jlmud@comment.wordpress.com> Datum: Freitag, 14. Juli 2017 um 15:46 An: Helmut Riener <H.Riener@gmx.net> Betreff: [New post] Don’t Worry – It’s Useless

    fabienneriener posted: “This article is part of the series “31 blogs in 31 days” during July 2017 on howtofab.com. Yesterday’s article was about Regrets and why they are often misplaced and unfair. Today I am having a similar go at Worrying, another questionable human pastime. “

    • fabienneriener July 18, 2017 at 11:36 am #

      Der indische Gelehrte/Weise (sage = Weise) Shantideva soll der Vater dieses Spruchs sein. LG Fabienne

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